People are attracted to certain types of men, especially those who project confidence. Overall, people are really attracted to confidence in general because it makes them feel better about themselves. Confidence is really a quiet, unpretentious way of walking into the world. It is how you hold yourself at work, home, and in life. If you are feeling less than confident in recovery, here are some tips to help get you back on track.
Taking time for basic grooming is essential if you want to feel confident. When you were in the throes of addiction, it’s unlikely you worried about your appearance after awhile. In fact, that might have been a trigger for yourself or others it was time to seek help. If you always kept up appearances but suddenly were not able to, that can decrease confidence. Some tips about grooming:
- Don’t overdo or over think it. Plenty of advice out there (and products) speak to getting men grooming within an inch of their life. Start with the basics
- Shower and shave everyday (or trim if you have facial hair)
- Brush your teeth
- Run a comb through your hair
- Use sunscreen to protect your skin from aging
- Get dressed in the morning, even if you have nowhere of importance to go
Confident men make goals and keep them. Goals are promises to yourself. Like in recovery, you learned how to set goals for sobriety. That will help you build confidence for your journey ahead. Start making and keeping goals today by setting one goal you may accomplish and do it. If you sleep in, make a goal to wake up early and do it. If you feel unorganized, make it a goal to plan a day out. By setting and keeping small goals, you will increase your confidence. As that increases, you can set and achieve bigger goals. This feeds on itself in a positive way to boost your confidence and keep you moving forward.
Nothing boosts confidence like exercise. Men typically need a physical outlet for their emotions, stress, anxiety. Not every man is wired the same, but everybody can benefit from a little exercise to get the blood flowing and confidence building. You don’t need a gym membership to start exercising. Find a routine that does not require a gym and just do it from home to start or find friends to go for walks, jog, or play pick-up games of basketball with on the weekend.
Learn Something New
In recovery, you need a hobby. Confident men are constant learners. By learning new skills, you demonstrate to yourself you are capable of adapting to anything life throws your way. With millions of skills, you can find the one you’ve always wanted to know and get working. Find a place to get information and sign up for classes or call a buddy to get started.
When you look at your recovery from where you started, you see the little moments building to this bigger moment. They don’t have to be huge successes. By remembering past successes, you’ll show yourself you’re not a complete screw up. If you can succeed at that, you can do anything. Write down how you’ve been successful thus far and make notes in a journal. That way, when you need a boost of confidence, you can take it out to see how far you’ve come.
If you are struggling with confidence, you’re not alone. You will not feel confident every single day in recovery. Life can knock you down, but don’t be afraid to get back up and get out there to fight for your recovery with confidence and courage that you made it here today. You can do anything one step at a time.
If you are struggling with confidence, the Last Resort is here to help. Don’t struggle alone with addiction. Let us help you with our programs and services designed to help you recover from addiction. However you find your way to the Last Resort, we endeavor to provide a haven where you can journey through recovery feeling like your life and story have meaning and a purpose. Call us to find out more: 512-750-6750.