Mentorship is this awkward thing men don’t like to talk about. It is this strange phenomenon that men seem to think they can do without, even though in many cultures mentoring is done from the time a child is young until they reach their teens as they cross the threshold into adulthood. Men and women are both influenced by older peers. Their first experience is within the family, being mentored by older relatives of their parents. The influence of people outside the family can be crucial for success in recovery for men, if they are open to receiving the wisdom.
Finding a Mentor
Seeking out mentorship in recovery may seem easy, but there are nuances to it, like anything else. You may not even intentionally seek it out, it simply happens upon you as you navigate life. When you let mentors speak into your life, you look back and regret not having done it sooner. There are three types of mentors who are helpful for you in recovery. Older men who have been down the path a ways can support you on the journey of healing in different ways and may give you different perspectives on what is helpful going forward.
Getting into a relationship with someone is challenging in recovery. This means navigating ups, downs, and potential pitfalls involved. Life is all about relationships. As you get older, you need someone to share the reality of life with in recovery. A relational mentor can help you navigate marriage, friendships, and parenting a they have been there, done that already. Older mentors who mentor younger men in recovery can offer advice and support for the journey as they understand what you are going through.
One of the hardest things about recovery is learning to deal with finances and money. Budgeting is hard in recovery. It is difficult to think about all the things you need to do regarding money while making wise, intelligent choices. Perhaps your finances are a mess since you got into recovery. The biggest thing is to find someone who offers sound financial advice and lean on them for support. Not necessarily someone who is helping you for their personal gain, rather someone who will meet you where you are at and help you navigate tough choices with love.
Emotional Health Mentorship
Emotional health is key to recovery. Even when you have therapists, psychiatrists, and medication to help you, there may be times when you just need to talk with someone about life stuff. Maybe you never learned emotional regulation and that is tough for you. In recovery, find a mentor who seems to have done their work and is further down the road than you. If you struggle with emotions, you might find this helpful. If you are not sure how to handle emotional situations at work or with your family, it can be healing to talk with someone who is older and more wise about navigating the ups and downs you’re facing. Reach out and ask for help, it may be the best decision you ever made.
We help mentor you through some tough decisions and choices in recovery. Regardless of what is happening, we are here to help you understand the best way forward. However you find your way to the Last Resort, we endeavor to provide a haven where you can journey through recovery feeling like your life and story have meaning and a purpose. Call us to find out more: 512-750-6750.