Exploring shyness and confidence is a challenge. On the one hand are people who experience being so shy they cannot talk to people and have anxiety. Others have loads of confidence and feel good about themselves in most any setting. When people have shyness, it is not that they do not want to be more confident, there can be myriad factors going on that suppress their confidence and ability to feel that way. Learn some tips to improve and build confidence.
Build a Foundation
Self-consciousness drives shyness. The easiest way to mitigate it is by practicing good hygiene. Shy people have enough to feel anxious about without worrying if people are looking at something on their shirt or some other thing. They will make up anything to be anxious about. When you feel confident you don’t have these excessive worries. A foundation of hygiene and dressing well can really keep you from feeling self-conscious and feeling really good about yourself.
People who are shy are unresilient in the face of social threats they perceive coming at them. Awkward social interactions can shake people up and they will not feel able to handle the setback. Learning to be resilient in the face of adversity greatly helps people build confidence.
Be Okay Not Being Liked
Part of anxiety and self-consciousness that arises from wanting everyone to like them comes from a place of wanting to be accepted. Maybe you feel there is something wrong with you but nobody is liked across the board. You probably don’t generate terrible thoughts but think ‘don’t take it personally, it’s okay not to be liked by everyone.’
Go Easy on Yourself
It is possible to change. Don’t let shyness get in the way of life. You become what people say is ‘successfully shy.’ it is possible to not let shyness get in the way of your life but it takes time to get past it. In the meantime, you have to:
- Learn from every social experience
- Know not everything goes smoothly
- You will mess up and that’s okay
- You won’t always say or do the right things
- People who care will accept you as you are
- Don’t beat yourself up
The key is to let yourself make mistakes. If you have a bad day and don’t feel like yourself, that’s okay. Try again tomorrow and let it be what it is for now. There Is always time to try again.
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