Letting go of resentment is never easy. Frustration can take you away from your goals in recovery and make you feel stuck. Although it is hard to release and let go of these hard-engrained thoughts and ideas, it is the only way to live peacefully while being sober or in recovery from substance abuse. Any resentments will harbor other feelings, which can even trigger relapse. Try some helpful tips to release those pent up frustrations and move forward in recovery.
When you hold a grudge, you feel you have been mistreated. It is easy to hold onto incidents that anger you, but gossipping or not treating others well because of how you were treated is not healthy. You have a right to get angry, but not take it out on others. If you want to let go of grudges and resentment, you have to lose the idea that you are owed anything by others. Betrayal is never justified. Forgiveness ensures resentment does not feed on your energy. It refers to the person, not the behavior, and not the offense of the wound itself but how the person was harmed. If you want to let go, you can try some of the following:
- Release resentment with intention: it can be hard to work things out but if the person is receptive, it may be possible. The target may not be approaching. Write it down, release it into the air, or find another way to let it go. Resentment is going to build until it has somewhere to go
- Reality check: when you practice forgiveness, you are telling people you are going to release them and yourself from the past. You may say you’re hurt and angry, but it is not reasonable to hang onto this pain. Part of forgiveness is cultivating space to deal with the good, bad, and the ugly. This represents the truth and, accepting that truth, will help you to forgive
- Think about forgiveness: this concept is really hard in recovery. It can feel like you were harmed, and others wronged you, so why not wrong them back? It is hard work. Try to figure out the context of their actions. You may be asking yourself to forgive. Perhaps you cannot do that yet. But, compassion opens a lot of doors. The feelings of anger or forgiveness are not mutually exclusive. You can experience both and be a little forgiving, and very angry. You will miss a lot if you stay angry and don’t allow yourself to feel forgiveness and find hope.
On the other side of forgiveness is hope and joy. There is a place in your heart for thinking about how you’ve harmed others and the harm they’ve caused you so you can find a place of peace.
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