The brain works hard every day to process information and help the body know where to go and what to do. Depending on how the brain interprets things, it will send signals and messages throughout the body. When you feel anxious or stressed, your brain is tempted to cut corners and preserve energy. Personal beliefs are also stored in the brain. Telling a body or brain it ‘must’ do something can ignore the complexities of how humans are wired. These unrealistic expectations can sit in the brain and body, compelling it to do things it should not and refuse to be willing to release it, without some extra support.
One unrealistic expectation is to put on yourself that you have to be perfect, never worry, have anxieties, or get into trouble. Often, the most successful people fail quite a bit before they succeed. Rather than being paralyzed by perfectionism, it helps to consider how life can be more full because of (or, in spite of) limitations. Getting stood up on a date does not mean you are destined to be alone as an old cat lady. The thing to remember is a success is what you make of it. If you are struggling with addiction or mental health issues, you can only do what you can do with what you know. If you are able to seek help, you might realign your thinking and priorities to help you focus on different things to support overall success.
Don’t expect to avoid conflict in life. It is not possible to avoid all conflict. This escape is only temporary. You will end up leaning into an addiction to help cope with conflict or issues where you feel unresolved around past conflict. It is better to learn about positive communication and how to face it head-on by seeking to understand the impossible. First, communication is a muscle that is flexed. Second, you become better when you articulate in times of uncertainty and stress that drama will not have the last say.
Let Go of Control
In the end, nobody controls anything. Dying and paying taxes are inevitable in this life. The rest gives us a sense we have control, but we really don’t. One of the best ways to look at self-control is to understand what you control and what you don’t. There are outside situations you cannot control. Your behavior is within your locus of control. Much of what happens is chance, but you can control your response and feelings associated with it. Challenge your brain to look at what has happened and describe what you see to yourself. When you seek to accept and love yourself where you are, you begin to realize you can do this thing called recovery and feel less unable to handle all that is thrown at you.
The Last Resort provides a safe, supportive environment for men in a retreat-like setting. Nature is an important component of recovery and healing. We strive to provide a place of enrichment that cultivates the inner as well as the outer journey of recovery. However you find your way to the Last Resort, we endeavor to provide a haven where you can journey through recovery feeling like your life and story have meaning and a purpose. Call us to find out more: 512-750-6750.