Regret can be a silent killer in recovery for people who have struggled with addiction. Making bad decisions, hurting family and friends, and ultimately ruining their own lives are just a few ways people in recovery look back in regret. This negative thinking cycle keeps people in the feedback loop of negative thoughts and does not let them look ahead towards new beginnings. Learning some strategies to cope with regret can help a person recover better and heal.
Spectrum of Regret
Choosing to allow regret to guide decisions is going to be an unbalanced way of letting things happen. Regret is important for the future, but all within a balanced perspective. There are two ways it can help people navigate grief and loss along with other difficult emotions in recovery:
- Anticipate regret: remember what actions led to regret in the past. Anticipate what will cause it in the future. Make choices to minimize this regret. Regret is the only possibility in a life without hope.
- Act differently: when regret is experienced from a decision, it is okay to choose not to make that decision again. When faced with a similar choice, it is okay to go a different way. Regret encourages people not to miss new opportunities. It motivates them to look at a more hopeful pathway to recovery.
Finding hope and healing in recovery can be a challenge with so many barriers lined up against people who are already struggling. The role of regret in each person’s life depends on their perspective. Everyone has the potential to be someone who either deals with regret or decides not to face it head on like they should. The choice is up to the person in recovery:
- Seek help from friends and family
- Seek support from therapeutic resources
- Attend community groups to stay focused
- Find accountability partners for the journey
Decide that no matter what, regret will not have the last say. Regret can come at any time like a trigger from the past. The key is to not let it derail the entire recovery plan along the journey. There is hope and healing in recovery from the past but it takes lots of hard work and dedication to keep looking forward and seeking truth.
The Last Resort provides a safe, supportive environment for men in a retreat-like setting. Nature is an important component of recovery and healing. We strive to provide a place of enrichment that cultivates the inner as well as the outer journey of recovery. However you find your way to the Last Resort, we endeavor to provide a haven where you can journey through recovery feeling like your life and story have meaning and a purpose. Call us to find out more: 512-750-6750.