Researchers developed a concept related to heightened sensitivity people feel around being rejected. What they discovered what people defensively expected to be rejected, they perceived others’ behaviors as rejection or they experienced intense negative response to romantic rejection. When people tried to cope, they usually responded in one of those three ways. They also discovered early unhealthy family situations create hyper-sensitivity to rejection. Learning to cope can build a sense of peace and happiness in recovery.
Rejection Should Not Isolate
The degree to which a person responds to rejection is a strong indicator of whether they have a problem or not. Human beings are highly social creatures. They need to feel a sense of belonging and acceptance by the people that matter to them. If your reaction to rejection is behavior that is even stronger or more widespread rejection, this may be a sign of hyper-sensitivity to rejection.
Being rejected never feels awesome. No matter how lucky you might feel, there is a gender difference in cultural expectations regarding acceptable responses to rejection. Men and women respond differently. Men tend to take rejection as a challenge to masculinity or an insult to the social hierarchy. Women are likely to feel emotionally hurt by rejection and assume something is personally lacking to warrant the rejection.
Tips to Cope
If you want to know how to cope best with the challenges of rejection, there are some things you can do to help yourself:
- Acknowledge your emotions: rather than suppress, ignore, or deny, mentally strong people acknowledge emotions. They admit when they’re embarrassed, sad, or discouraged. They have confidence in dealing with uncomfortable emotions head-on
- Rejection is viewed as pushing the limits: mentally strong people know rejection serves as proof they’re living to the fullest. They expect rejection and are not afraid to go for it
- Treat themselves with compassion: mentally strong people treat themselves with compassion and respond with positive self-talk and a more affirming message. They repeat helpful mantras to keep themselves strong
- They refuse to let rejection define them: mentally strong people don’t make sweeping generalizations when rejected. If they get rejected, they don’t conclude they are unlovable. They know their own worth
The last thing people do to cope is to learn from rejection. They are mentally strong and ask what they can gain from it. Rather than tolerate it, they turn it into self-growth opportunities. With rejection, they grow stronger and become better. The better you become, the more wise you also become and that helps you cope with rejection.
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