How Can Men Stop Self-Sabotaging Their Recovery?

It is hard to not be your own worst enemy in recovery. That means trying to derail your own recovery, but maybe not have awareness you are doing this. Many factors exist as to why people do this. Basically, it is part of the addiction to wanting to keep it going rather than do something more beneficial. Addiction is a form of self-sabotage. Instead of dealing with negative thoughts or feelings, people with addiction look to escape. Recovery is difficult because people may want to do what is right, but they may not be sure how to do that after being addicted for so long.


There are myriad ways self-sabotage happens. People unwittingly do this, but it is not always for the reasons people think. What happens is that people will kill any chance they have at being successful because they don’t know how to let themselves claim victory in this area of their lives. This can mean many things, including:

  • Keeping toxic friendships: cutting ties with friends and pals is difficult. Friends who weres there for a while maybe emotionally supportive for a time, then, when you are in rehab, fall off the face of the earth. Toxic friends or those who were friends from drug days are likely to be toxic and not helpful for you if you are in recovery and they are not
  • Too much alone time: being alone too much can lead to boredom, which is a key trigger for abuse. The time that is spent taking drugs or alcohol is now structured around hobbies, meetings, and other activities. The key is not to spend too much time alone, but enough to meditate, rest or find peace in recovery to support your journey
  • Stress: people feel stress in different ways but recovery can be enough of a stressor on its own. Feeling like you are coming out of addiction into rehab then recovery with lots of stress means you don’t need it at home. Don’t let people come into your life who bring stress and drama if you want to be successful
  • Instead of seeing recovery as a competition, it is best to remind yourself how life will be better after recovery. You are meant to be doing this for yourself and you are not better than other people in addiction treatment. You just have to find your journey for yourself and continue to move forward with your goals
  • Missing meetings: going to meetings is very important early on to cement addiction recovery principles. It also helps build support for the journey. Having people who journey alongside you is key to finding hope in recovery
  • Denial: denying a problem exists is a huge challenge for people if you want to sabotage your recovery. Admit a problem exists if you want to cement your space in recovery

Addiction recovery is not a cake walk. It is meant to be hard for a reason, but breaking through the barriers with addiction is important. It is important to remember recovery takes time and hard work but it is possible to navigate it with the help of friends and loved ones.

Men can be great at sabotaging their own success but we will help you see it from a different lens. No matter where you come from, we are here to help you find hope and stop killing your chances at recovery. However you find your way to the Last Resort, we endeavor to provide a haven where you can journey through recovery feeling like your life and story have meaning and a purpose. Call us to find out more: 512-750-6750.