Self-esteem is the way people see themselves. With positive energy, there is confidence and self-respect. A person’s self-esteem forms so much of who they are and can be stable, but fluctuate, depending on circumstances. It should have a stable platform on which to stand, a firm foundation. When a person has an addiction, that self-esteem becomes eroded over time. Healthy self-esteem is a result of resilience and finding hope to last throughout recovery.
Impact of Hope
Self-esteem not only impacts how a person sees the world, but how they act in the world. When things happen, self-esteem usually determines how that person responds. Even in failure, it will not diminish their self-esteem. When people are not too concerned about others’ opinions of themselves, they accept flaws without judgment. Their self-acceptance goes beyond self-esteem. Impaired self-esteem impacts the ability to manage adversity negatively, all relationships are impacted by this. People sometimes do not see their self-worth and needs. They may self-sacrifice, defer to others, or try to control them or their feelings when their self-esteem is not good. With hope, they are able to see and feel like they are moving forward in recovery with a renewed sense of the world and their place in it.
A person with healthy self-esteem will usually have a pretty solid worldview of themselves. This includes:
- Feeling grounded and enough
- Knowing their value
- Feeling confident
- Not judging themselves or others
- Have self-compassion
Growing up in a dysfunctional family or around codependency weakens self-esteem. When a person’s voice feels pushed down, their opinions and desires are not taken seriously. They do not have good relationship skills and struggle to communicate feelings openly. It is healthy to express what a person feels and not feel judged or shamed. Having good boundaries is key to feeling good about oneself in recovery.
Self-esteem is determined by teens most of the time. Some will struggle but they know they can change and build a healthy self-esteem. Raising this means getting to know and love oneself. This means attentive listening, quiet time, and commitment. It is difficult to get outside their own thoughts and beliefs to see things from another perspective. Therapy helps shift this while cognitive behavioral therapy has been shown to raise self-esteem and be more powerful when combined with meditation that increases self-awareness. What to do:
- Write and journal about what a person experiences throughout the day
- Heal from shame-based experiences
- Know the signs that self-esteem is lagging
- Learn to identify and challenge cognitive distortions
The more a person roots out the heart of poor self-esteem, the better off they will be. They will feel healthier and be more open to understanding why they do what they do and can seek help for any place where they are struggling. Good self-esteem is about balance and healing.
The Last Resort can help you if you struggle with self-esteem in recovery. You are not alone and we are here to help you understand why and how this happened. Addiction is hard, but we are here to support your journey of healing. Call us to find out more: 512-750-6750.